Latest developments

Back when I was pregnant, I tried to read some of the parenting books to learn all about how to be a good mom (thanks Dr. Sears!).. One of the items that I had read was that babies have no clue what pronouns mean and to use names instead.

For example, when talking with my little guy, to say: Mommy is going to give John a bottle now. Would John like that bottle? [rather than, I'll give you a bottle now, would you like it?]

So, I've been talking in third person now for 20 months when speaking with my little guy. People are properly starting to think I have a little problem. John talks back in third person as well.

WELL -- last night, he said "I SEE YOU!" two pronouns!!! Not "John sees Mommy", but "I see you" !!! I was shocked, it was a happy moment.

Second development -- John has figured the whole "boo-boo gets a kiss" bit. We started with telling him to "rub it" if he got a boo-boo - wanting our toddler to be self-sufficient of course. He'd hit his head on something or other, and if it was only a light tap resulting in a bit of a whine, I would tell him to rub it. He would come to show me, rub it and I would give him a hug. That graduated to kisses -- now, he'll look at the table, say boo-boo, lightly tap his head, and come for a kiss !!! I told him, I'd gladly give away kisses for free, no need to put his head in injury's way. Putting two and two together and manipulating mommy already... :)

Connections, part 2

Can I just say how much I enjoy reading the blogs that I follow on a regular basis?

Most of these blog treasures are written by fellow moms, with whom I've had the blessings of crossing paths with on babycenter.com. I look forward to reading their latest posts; to laughing, tearing, nodding in agreement, and just enjoying reading of fellow adventures in motherhood and womanhood. Psst, my husband loves reading too !

Tess posted a blog seeking lurkers to out themselves -- I'm taking a little flip side of that and shouting out here on my blog -- to Cathy, Tess,Kiki, Kellee and Mater-- I love your blogs and hope you'll continue sharing your adventures through the new year that is upon us.

Blessings all around.

Reconnecting and connections

Reconnecting after the holiday festivities and chaos -- with my husband, my son and maybe with myself and my relationship with God. Pretty backwards, connecting AFTER the holidays, but so it is.. John, my husband and I had a grand outing to the mall this evening to pick up a winter coat for John on post-Christmas clearance. It was a good time, chasing John around the mall and sharing a coffee with Vito. Most of all, it was a connection, with the three of us just sharing time together.

Two days ago was the seventh anniversary of my mom's passing. She died way too early, before I got married and had John. I try to keep a connection with her in my daily thoughts and prayers, but that connection feels like it is fading over time. I feel guilty that I don't feel as sad as I had years ago, I feel guilty that I don't mourn as much. Time heals, but it also brings forgetfulness. I try to remember the sound of my mom's voice, the sound of her laugh, but it gets harder and harder. Memories become fuzzy and hazy as the years pass. I try to keep the family traditions going that my mom had shared with me, so that I can share my mom with John. I try to thoughtfully pray each night that my mom will watch over John from heaven. I try to keep her memory alive, but I fear that I'm losing the connection.